Spoiler Alert: we all have low self worth
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Hello again my love.
Whenever I’m talking with a friend or family member about my own self transformation, I notice how I often surprise them when I share my past and present struggles with low self worth.
I’ll tell them how I used to be extremely insecure about everything and how I’m still working to overcome that pattern.
I’ll tell them that I used to constantly fear I wasn’t good enough and how that same story continues to pop up as I grow and evolve.
I’ll tell them how to this day I’m still riddled with anxiety and self doubt that says I don’t deserve all the amazing things I truly want.
They’ll respond with, “Wow! You would never guess. You always seem so confident and self assured. Like you have everything together.”
But low self worth isn’t something that can be seen by another person. It’s not depicted in our behavior or achievements, necessarily.
It’s something that exists solely underneath the surface. It’s something that takes place in our minds—and in our minds alone.
Not in the way we look.
Not in the way we interact with others.
Not in the way we function at our jobs or in our daily lives.
In our minds alone.
It’s the faint thoughts we hear in the morning that whisper words of self doubt and shame.
It’s the running subconscious story of our past mistakes, keeping them very much alive.
It’s the wave of worry that washes over us as we imagine all of our future failures.
It’s those dark, eerily quiet moments when we lose all perspective and fall flat on our faces into paralyzing fear.
Spoiler Alert:
Every single human being has this exact same programming. Every single human being struggles with these types of thoughts and feelings.
We all may manage it differently, some better than others.
But I’m not one of the rare, unlucky ones.
I’m just like everyone else.
Now I’m surrounded by a community of people that are working on facing their low self worth. Of overcoming evolution. Healing. Rewiring their brains. Becoming. Daring their way through the vast, uncharted mind.
Not one person on this planet was granted access to “perfect.” There’s not one human being alive today that doesn’t have low self worth.
Not the rich. Not the famous. Not the monks or the priests.
We ALL struggle with this.
So I guess I am surprised by all of THEIR surprise.
Like why yes, of course, isn’t it obvious? Isn’t this something we all deal with?!
Then I realize, the reason they are so surprised by my story is because they have yet to face their own story.
They have managed, very successfully, to avoid ever facing their low self worth.
They have managed to emotionally blind fold themselves by pretending like their low self worth is not really there.
They have yet to acknowledge all that rests just underneath the surface.
And that’s ok.
That was me too, once.
The reason we choose to forgo acknowledging our pain is because we believe by doing so we are protecting ourselves from something terrible.
Maybe there is some truth to that.
But there’s also truth in recognizing that avoiding this work and pretending like we’re okay causes WAY more suffering than it does healing.
I know that I’m never alone as I continue to face and heal my low self worth.
And neither are you.
If you want this next year to be your best one yet and you are ready and committed to facing the painful parts of yourself and then transforming them into power and love, book a free consultation and we will navigate through it all together.
We will learn and grow, together.
We will get you into a confident state of vulnerability, strength, and certainty like you have never felt before.
We will change your life for the better.
Together.
Your friendly coach,
Ellicia
